About Grief: Finding Meaning in Loss

The journey through grief is an inevitable path that every one of us will eventually tread. However, this path, often laden with societal taboos and misconceptions, is far from straightforward.

Having recently lost my mother, I find solace and insight in delving into materials about death, grief, and the emotional journey that accompanies them.

During my exploration, I came across a podcast from The Life Coach School that featured an interview with Krista St. Germain. Krista, a Certified Life Coach specializing in grief, which I found very nurturing and helpful.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nTK-lNmIYVM

In this podcast interview, Krista challenges the notion that there’s a universal “right way” to navigate it. In other words grief is as diverse as the individuals who experience it. There is no universally “correct” way to grieve, and there are no “stages” one should follow leading to a “successful” grieving experience (or for that matter, an “unsuccessful” one…).

Instead, Krista proposes that grief may be viewed as a constellation of tasks we encounter, each essential for healing. These tasks might encompass acknowledging the stark reality of loss, processing the sharp stabs of pain, cherishing fond memories, and learning to navigate life in the absence of that person’s physical presence.

Krista’s insights emphasize the significance of storytelling. She urges us to share our stories, to process emotions, and to become more comfortable with allowing ourselves to feel. She reminds us of our power to discern what is within our control and what isn’t—a concept closely aligned with emotional intelligence and personal growth.

Amidst the grief journey, well-intentioned friends and family may encourage us to seek the silver lining, encouraging us to find strength in our pain. However, it is important to realise that we don’t have to “search for gifts” within our loss if we’re not prepared to. Grieving is about authenticity—permitting ourselves to be raw and genuine.

If you know someone grappling with grief, it’s essential to recognize that their journey is unique. Comparing your own experiences to someone else’s in grieving is fruitless. Instead, offer the simple yet profound gift of presence: “I love you. I’m sorry this happened. I’m here for you.” And when inquiring about their well-being, ask, “How are you today?” This question acknowledges the fluid nature of grief and the ever-changing emotional landscape.

Moreover, Krista reminds us that grief doesn’t have an endpoint—it’s an ongoing evolution. Relationships persist in our memories, transcending the boundaries of life and death. Our connection with departed loved ones endures, enabling us to express unsaid sentiments and experience lingering emotions.

Finally, Krista underscores the importance of balance. Amidst the grieving process, it’s crucial to grant ourselves permission to continue living. We must explore creative outlets, engage in hobbies, and savor life’s simple pleasures. After all, healing doesn’t entail leaving the past behind—it involves forging a new path while cherishing the memories that shaped us.

Overall, while there’s no formula for grieving, there’s comfort in the understanding that pain is not an anomaly; it’s a testament to the love we’ve shared.

• Let’s extend compassion—to ourselves and to others—as we traverse the tumultuous waters of grief.
• As we encounter loss, let’s remember that each individual’s journey is distinctive and valid.
• Let’s strive to create a space where grief is understood, embraced, and ultimately transformed into a source of strength.

If you’re seeking guidance in processing your emotions and navigating grief, consider reaching out.

As an emotional intelligence and leadership coach, I’m here to support you through your journey of self-discovery and healing. ❤️

Sincerely Yours,

Dr Sophie