Allow me to introduce you to Sophie, a spirited 6-year-old known affectionately as “Sophinette” by her mother. With a heart full of warmth, kindness, and boundless joy, she embodies the essence of childhood innocence. As I gazed upon an 80s photograph of my younger self, I grappled with the challenge of capturing those qualities that once defined me. This exercise, undertaken during my journey through Positive Intelligence training, led me to a profound realization about the importance of self-empathy.

Unveiling the Power of Self-Empathy

Life’s demands, ambitions, and responsibilities often lead us away from the qualities that once defined our true selves. High achievers, in particular, may find themselves caught in a perpetual cycle of pushing harder, achieving more, and often neglecting their own emotional well-being. The concept of self-empathy, introduced by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence, becomes a beacon of light in this fast-paced world.

Nurturing Our Inner Child: The Self-Empathy Exercise

One of the remarkable exercises within the realm of Positive Intelligence is reconnecting with our inner child. Much like the delightful Sophie, we all have a younger version of ourselves brimming with joy, curiosity, and authenticity. This inner child often gets overshadowed by the demands of adulthood and the pursuit of success.

By exploring childhood pictures, we can rekindle a connection with our inner child. In my case, looking at that 80s photograph of “Sophinette” transported me back to a time when joy flowed effortlessly. This exercise offers a path to self-empathy, allowing us to view ourselves with the kindness and understanding we often extend to others.

Unlocking the Empathy Power Center

In the world of Positive Intelligence, self-empathy is not just a fleeting exercise; it’s a transformative power center. When we treat ourselves with the same compassion and empathy we offer to loved ones, a profound shift occurs. Our inner critic loses its grip, and the narrative of self-judgment softens. We embrace our imperfections as stepping stones on the path to growth.

Coaching for Self-Empathy and Empowerment

As an emotional intelligence and transformational leadership coach, I understand the challenges that high-achieving individuals face when it comes to self-empathy. Through personalized coaching sessions, I guide individuals on a journey of self-discovery, helping them reconnect with their inner child and fostering self-empathy. By embracing the power of self-empathy, we unlock a deeper well of resilience, self-compassion, and overall well-being.

In a nutshell: can you Remember who you were born to be?

Take a moment to reflect:

  • Have you recently taken a journey back to your inner child?
  • Have you rekindled the spark of joy and authenticity that once defined you?
  • Or are you ready to embark on this transformative path?

If you’re seeking guidance in cultivating self-empathy and harnessing your inner strengths, please contact me to envisage coaching options 😊

Sincerely yours,

Dr Sophie


About Shirzad Chamine and his work on Positive Intelligence – coaching benefits and guidance

Shirzad Chamine is a prominent author, coach, and speaker known for his work on Positive Intelligence (PQ), which focuses on improving mental fitness and emotional well-being. His approach involves strengthening the “Sage” powers of the mind while reducing the influence of “Saboteur” voices that hinder personal growth. One crucial Sage power is empathy, particularly self-empathy, which holds special significance for high-achieving individuals.

High-achievers often excel in their fields but can struggle with self-compassion and self-empathy. Their relentless pursuit of excellence may lead to self-criticism, burnout, and a constant sense of striving. Chamine’s work highlights the importance of developing self-empathy as a means to counteract the harsh inner dialogue that many high-achievers experience.

Empathy, in this context, refers to the ability to understand and connect with one’s own feelings and experiences in a compassionate way. Chamine’s research suggests that developing self-empathy can lead to improved emotional resilience, reduced stress, and greater overall well-being.

One technique Chamine proposes to generate self-empathy involves connecting with one’s inner child. This involves revisiting childhood memories and using a childhood picture as a visual aid. By reconnecting with the innocent and vulnerable aspects of ourselves, we can foster self-compassion and understand the origins of certain emotional patterns.

By integrating the practice of self-empathy, high-achieving individuals can learn to treat themselves with the same kindness and understanding they offer to others. This approach not only helps them cope with challenges more effectively but also contributes to a healthier sense of self-worth and increased positivity.

Incorporating these principles into coaching can be highly beneficial, as coaches can guide their clients through exercises like connecting with their inner child. This process allows clients to tap into their own sources of self-empathy, leading to improved emotional balance and a more fulfilling life.